To dating magazine
I asked singles to tell me why Christian singles aren’t dating. The comments rolled in, and some fantastic conversation came of it.
There’s a false standard that we’ve perpetuated and let’s just put this out there: No one is measuring up.
I’ve been pretty outspoken about how I feel about this subject.
Twenty years after the I Kissed Dating Goodbye movement, we’re finally learning to lighten up about dating. I’m a firm believer that dating in high school is something that teenagers should do without—the problem is that too many people then take that mentality long into adulthood.
My hope and prayer is that by having and sharing these conversations, men and women in leadership will realize that the 25-plus singles are truly a neglected demographic within the Church—and then do something about it.
It’s time to make some noise, approach our leaders and do our part to build bridges and opportunities for singles to connect.
True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life. I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.
I read dozens of studies about love, how people connect and why they do or don’t stay together.Christians need to stop stressing so much about dating. FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, national speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates.